Recognition. Mockery. And orgasms.
Every individual seeks his peers recognition. That is something every one can relate to.
Like, if I were to tell a joke, I expect people to laugh along. In this example, my humour is in need of recognition.
Recognition is in itself a form of integrating another person into the society, or the network of friends. By not laughing at my jokes, you are not allowing me entry to your social circle because you denied the existence of my humour, which is quite a sad thing actually.
Of course, that's just an sexample and isn't true. I mean, who can't recognize my humour?
Anyway enough of that bullshit.
As in Restaurant City, every restaurant has a toilet bowl. OK, at least most of them has. It's the same for humans. In this shitty world we live in(some people call it screwed-up, but I prefer to be more crude. It gives me orgasms.), we get full of shit all the time.
We all need someone to pour our sorrows out to, and being the stalker that I am, I enjoy stalking blogs of my friends. And as mentioned, a lot of people are full of shit, and I like to have my friends share their burden with me.
But that doesn't mean that they have to. Every friend has his/her own friends, and it's not rare to be sort of snubbed in the form of getting your request-for-burden rejected because you are not as close to the recipient of your concern as you thought yourself to be.
So when you extend your round hand, be ready to be rejected. The nicer people would reject it in a more subtle way, and that's a cue to stop showing concern of that intensity, because they are not used to receiving such kindness from you.
Even though you may want to help your friend desperately, as long as he/she is not receptive of your support. When people get turned off, they zone out, and they get pissed off because it shows a certain form of obsessiveness on your part.
So what do I propose, and you have to stick to?
When rejected, just shut up and move along. If you're not the recipient's toilet bowl, you just are not.
Stop probing, because it'd make the recipient uncomfortable. Remember that making the recipient uncomfortable is not an intended outcome, so it's best if you were to just show that you care, and move along.
The choice of whether the recipient would say what's up or not lies with him/her. Support is not a compulsory course the recipient has to go through, at least not from you. It is an option.
If the recipient/victim doesn't recognize you as a close friend, there's no point whining about it. Just because you treat him as a close friend does not mean that he must reciprocate.
Which reminds me of the common view that teenage life sucks and how screwed-up the world is.
Well. I think that we've had our good times in life when we were in primary school. We had our fun, we did our fun stuff, we didn't really know about the homework we had, blah blah blah, and we...
can't recall that much about it after all.
Perhaps many years down the road, while we are getting crushed by the weight of work, we'd start to think that 'hmm, maybe it wouldn't be that bad to go back to teenage life'. Simply because we can't recall much about teenage life after all.
What is lost is cherished. People whine about homework and stuff, when the only repercussion of not doing homework is getting scolded by the teacher, and perhaps detention, and maybe a bit more of extra homework. In the real world? Might get sacked. Some talk about stress indeed.
Besides, homework is only as serious as you think it to be. Not doing it doesn't get you killed often, if ever at all.
And the option to copy is never unavailable.
I recall with fondness the memories of mugging for O's. Having remedial till 8PM++ on days, and get off from school at 6.30PM because I'm in the focus group. It was bitter-sweet, but fun all the same. It is not exactly an experience I'd like to re-live, but one that isn't that bad after all. It tired me out to be honest, but I like getting tired. It gives me a sense of satisfaction, because I think that getting tired = work done, and I enjoy feeling accomplished.
Not that bad after all.
As for the part about how screwed the world is, well, humans have never been sane since they started thinking. There are several equations that humans are governed by:
When Greed + power > conscience, the person in question screws the world.
But is that really considered screwing the world? What exactly do you want to see the world as? A place where everyone is good to everyone else? I think I'd be very disturbed if such a world were to exist. Every human being acts in self-interest, and that's a fact that cannot be changed.
You're trapped in a jungle with another human whom you don't know. You have a fish, and both of you are famished. There is only enough water to last the both of you for 2 days. You know that help can only arrive in a week. Basic animal instinct would tell you to kill the other guy to save your own skin. Or at least knock him out or grab the water and run.
But the 'nice' side of us takes over and you go like 'oh we should share so we could survive together'. But when reality sets in, that only one of you can survive, you bankai and would save your own skin.
We can only presume the worse in humans in such a scenario. There are no miracles.
If you're an insane person, you'd share, and both of you would die anyway because there isn't enough water to go around.
Isn't that more screwed up? The same amount of water, and one walks away alive, and the same amount of water, but both dies.
I think that most people find the world screwed up because of the education system, and job prerequisites, which include accomplishments from the education system.
In this case, employment is the water from the previous analogy. To get employed, you have to prove yourself in the academic field, and you have to fight with others who are just as good as, if not better than, you. In this dog eat dog world, it's more of instincts, and you can't call that screwed up because everyone is fighting for survival.
As mentioned in my previous post, it is just 're-packaged' barbarianism. Not very shocking as it's human.
It is your choice to view it as 'screwed-up', but I think that's just human instinct. The daily jostling to get on trains during peak hour is evidence. If you miss the first train, you'd think along the lines of 'OK now time for karma to be on my side, I've paid my tribute and am going to take part in the jostling for the next train.'
No one goes like 'oh never mind, I am not in a hurry at all, let the others go first! I can wait, I have all the time in the world', because you have to pay a fine of $2 if you lag shit in alighting. And probably because you realize that there's no way you can get home without jostling.
Is that screwed up? No, it's human instinct. Unless you're saying that what we're made of is screwed up, then carry on. But then again humans are pretty screwed up. So why comment on how screwed up the world is?
I get the feeling that we all know that ourselves anyway. Saying out loud doesn't change the fact.
Which reminds me, I think that the way GP is taught in AJ is screwed up. We all have to have 2 files, the reading file and the written work file. Reading file would be used to file up all newspaper articles which are relevant to GP. The teacher would dump random newspaper articles on us from time to time, and they all have to be in this fucked up file. And if you don't have it, PHOTOCOPY.
I don't do things I don't see a point in, unless it's like paying tax--compulsory. If I have to do this stupid shit as if it were a get-out-of-jail-free card, then I'd have to do it even though it's not as 'free' as it claims to be.
But seriously, is there a point in filing up 2 years of newspaper articles? Of course, the articles chosen are relevant to GP, but it would still grow to be a considerable amount after 2 years.
Is anyone going to go through all that has been filed up? I believe that mugging is a tried-and-true way of achieving results, but I also think that there are subjects that can't be mugged for. GP content is always changing, like science. There are studies that show that having fruits after a meal would aid in digestion. Now they say it's before.
For people like me, I don't give a shit. So what you read now may not be true during the A's, and blindly 'mugging' it would not reap results.
So what is the fucking point? If you read and remember interesting articles, good for you. But there is no point cramming GP knowledge, because it should come naturally. Mugging it would make one more inclined to tweaking(and hence failing to answer) the question set, just to suit what the mugger has mugged.
And to be honest, I won't go through the reading file. You don't see sane people reading newspapers printed in '08. It's not called newspapers, it's called oldspapers, and that is a form of history, and I don't think that GP is about history.
So fuck that.
I feel inferior blogging that out because I think it's a stupid method to teach GP, and that I'm forced to go through this shit.
Which reminds me of a blog my friend showed me. It's a male who claims to be a bitch. I think it's quite easy to google him, seeing as his blog is very popular, but I think that he's just an attention-seeker.
I don't think that homosexuals would be proclaiming their sexuality on something as public as a blog.
I am not against homosexuals. Seriously. I respect them, but to post it on a blog? It is OK if you blog like a bitch, I understand that there are people with different blogging styles, but to state that you are 'Singapore's ONLY male bitch' is quite attention seeking. That person is just trying to break new grounds.
And I think it's an insult to other homosexuals, because his blog may mislead others into thinking that all homosexuals are like him--attracting attention, and being gay just to attract attention.
In a conservative society like Singapore, everyone does things but stops short of coming public. In a way, perhaps it is courage that led this guy to blogging about his sexuality, but what I see from his advertisement-plastered blog is that he is commercializing his sexuality.
He is making a mockery out of other homosexuals in a way.
I could start a blog and claim to be a homosexual, and post many weird pictures of myself or other stuff which I heard he posted but am not bothered in checking out. Then I would say that I am Singapore's only REAL male bitch. Then publish posts on how to vote for me for popularity.
I don't know what his true intentions are, but I think that he isn't being too matured with his blog. Not that I am, because bloggers are generally people with too much time on his/her hands.
-- 5/04/2009 09:44:00 PM
