Guys are as assholic as you allow them to be.
I was on my way home just now when I met this couple quarrelling. It was a very heated argument, and the guy was apparently using power play to force the girl to listen to him. This was all at a safe distance across the road, so I stopped to stare and contemplate if I should shout at him to stop, all the while understanding that couples squabble like that surprisingly often...
..until the quarrel intensified with the guy shouting and screaming and pushing the girl to the floor. Then he walked away, giving an awesome shriek into the air, an indication of his anger, and proceeded to climb the overhead bridge over to my side of the road, with the girl was slumped on the floor, apparently in shock. That's when I started climbing the overhead bridge over to the girl's side because being a gentleman I was worried about her (and if she wanted revenge sex she could take it out on me..I don't mind, she seemed hot from a distance). I was halfway across when she FUCKING WENT TO THE MIDDLE OF THE ROAD TO CLIMB ACROSS THE RAILING-THING. This is a picture of the road I've painstakingly described:
OK it might not seem impressive, but what I meant was, this is only one side of the road, meaning there's another side of the road for cars going a different direction, which means the girl jaywalked and climbed over the railings in the middle and jaywalked again to join her boyfriend on the other side of the road.
What is depicted in this picture is the guy standing and the girl sitting directly in front of him in a very compromising position, like as if she's ready to perform fellatio. At this point of time I've already crossed the overhead bridge, and looking like an idiot I walked over to a group of ahpeks sitting around a public table who were discussing about it.
So I struck a conversation with them:
Me: Wao watching show ah?
Ah Pek: Ya. They've been at it for a long time. They crossed the road like that a few times already
Me: Pssch. People these days. Tsk tsk tsk.
Ah Pek: Yalor.
Me: OK, I zao first, bye uncles.
All in Chinese of course, I like talking in Chinese.
So after that I decided to leave it to their own devices and carry on with what I was doing.
This brings us back to the age-old question: Are guys allowed to be assholes?
This episode really exemplifies why guys can be assholes--the girls allow them to be. Never blame guys for being assholes. They are what you feed them, and if you feed them complacency they will be humans and be complacent and think that they can have their way, all the time.
If I have a girlfriend I'd want her to be able to stand up against me. I want her to be independent enough to realize that she can piss me off and get away with it. There must be limits in a relationship, and if there aren't any then it's unhealthy.
Guys are only as assholic as you allow them to be. Bear that in mind the next time you point your finger at a guy who appears to be an asshole.
-- 8/08/2010 11:56:00 PM